Another day, another article about Miley Cyrus post-VMAs. I kind of feel like her performance at that joke of an awards show will become one of those “do you remember where you were when…” moments. I remember where I was, at work. I first learned about her “controversial” performance on facebook and then a few news sites as images and video started to emerge of her performance. More than anything, I remember the reactions people had. Before I watched the video I thought she’d done something really full-on based on peoples reactions, so I was really disappointed when I actually got around to watching it. That’s it??? It was such a non-event to me, and certainly not the most controversial thing I’ve seen done in pop music.
So many people, including friends on social media, appeared mortified that she’d dared dress and/or act the way she did. Many people lamented that the old Miley was now gone and this new one was horrible and a disgrace. While I thought her performance was tacky and probably unnecessary, I couldn’t understand why people seemed to angry/appalled. But then I guess it’s because I never cared that much for Miley to begin with, whereas a lot of other people did. For some reason people were taking great personal offence that she’d decided to strip herself of her cute, all-American, girl-next-door image and now wanted to join the ranks of Lady Gaga, Rihanna, Madonna and countless other pop stars who use sexuality and unusual clothing choices to grab the public’s attention.
The more I think about it, the angrier I get. Not just at peoples dumb reactions to a celebrity they don’t even know and yet seem to think they have a say about what she does, but to every damn aspect of it. I hate the over reactions to something that wasn’t even that big a deal in the grand scheme of things. I hate the fact people are now acting like twerking is a new, exciting thing and actually proclaiming she is the queen of it (when she can’t even twerk at all). I hate how her body was critiqued because her bum wasn’t pert and perfect. I hate how Billy Ray Cyrus had to defend her, because idiots thought her dad should not let his adult daughter do undaughterly things on TV. I hated how she got all the flak and fucking Robin Thicke got nothing when his song is a rapey piece of shit and he looked like a puncier version of Beetlejuice in that damn suit. I hate how she’s obviously felt pressured to change her image like this in order to shed the Hannah Montana image that people cling so desperately to. I hate how she has to use her body and silly sexual gestures to get noticed, because it’s not enough that she can sing.
It’s a shit situation all round, but at the end of the day, it’s her life and she can do with it what she wants. She generated a HUGE amount of interest because of that performance, so really, if getting attention and some notoriety was her intention, then she did a fantastic job of it. I wish it wasn’t at the expense of her credibility and dignity, but hey, it’s pop music. Since when did pop stars ever get to keep their dignity? People should have let go of the Hannah Montana thing long ago, when she stopped playing that character and started growing up. They bitch and moan that her sexy new look is trashy and unattractive, but they forget that she was being fetishised as a underage sex symbol anyway, and at least now any sexual attraction to her is justified and less creepy because she is an adult, acting like an adult, and doing adult, sexy things that demand sexual thoughts.
I just hope that she gets all of this hyper-sexualised BS out of her system with this album, a few film clips, a photoshoot with Terry Richardson (ugghh) and then moves on to become the person she really is. If it turns out this is the real Miley, then good on her. Many of us go through most of our lives not knowing who we are or suppressing our true selves for the benefit of others. Whatever happens, I still won’t ever buy her records so really, it aint any of my damn business.
My name is Cara (but you can call me Ruby) and I like the colour pink, cartoons, movies, fist shaking, Harry Potter and 90s RnB. I live in Brisbane and occupy my time making kawaii stuff for your hairs and face!
I love living in Australia, it’s a bloody good country in a lot of ways. But as a general rule, we’re a bunch of racists. Not necessarily outright racists who abuse non-whites for merely existing, but a lot of Australians are “casually racist” in that they don’t really like other races very much but claim they actually do while bitching about “bloody abo’s” or getting angry over the “problem” with boat people flooding our country.
It’s something that’s mostly glossed over, people make a remark that’s kind of racist and people just ignore it. I admit I have, because sometimes it’s too hard to confront someone about it or you just don’t have the time/energy to start a debate on what’s considered racist. A lot of the time these comments are made by people who don’t even realise they’ve said something racist, they’re just saying what they’ve heard a lot of other Aussie’s say and don’t see it as a problem. And because people never really point it out to them, they go through life not understand just how offensive their casual racism can be.
There’s been a lot of media attention on a 13 year old girl who called an AFL player an ape recently. While it seems like an obvious racial slur, the girl insists she didn’t mean it as such and has apologised profusely for yelling it out. But she’s now become the “face of racism in Australia” and has potentially had her young life ruined because the player in question, the AFL as a whole and the Australian media are portraying her as a racist, conveniently forgetting she’s only a kid and has already apologised. She’s more than made up for her silly comment with the aftermath of this event, and I think it’s horrendous how she was treated.
I’m sure you’re wondering why I’m defending this girl after claiming most Australians are mildly racist. Well, in my opinion this little girl is being used as a tool to prove we don’t tolerate racism, and unfairly so. Aussies are so keen to prove they’re not racist by vilifying others when they really ought to be looking at themselves. I’m sure most white Australians can think of something they’ve said or thought that’s far worse than calling a man an ape, so to harass this little girl is absolutely hypocritical of us to do. Even if you haven’t said/thought something like that yourself, think of all the time you’ve heard someone make a racist comment and not spoken up. It’s not exactly the same, but just because you’ve not vocalised such comments yourself doesn’t mean you’re any better than that little girl.
I think casual racism is a big problem in Australian society and every time we ignore it, insist it doesn’t exist, or blame it all on the one person who was caught saying the wrong thing, we are only making it worse. Silence implies consent. If you don’t tell someone they’ve been racist, how will they ever know? I’m as guilty as the next person of turning a deaf ear to racist remark, and it’s something I’m working on (so not only will I be a shouty feminist who berates anyone who makes a sexist remark, I’ll also tell you off for being racist, mwahaha). Next time you hear someone mention complain about some race for doing something they don’t like, let them know it’s not on. You don’t have to be an ass about it, a polite reminder will hopefully stop them. And if it doesn’t? Well, at least you tried. You can’t change the world in a day, right?
To conclude, I am going to leave you with something that’s very painful to watch but relevant to what I have been saying. The woman in this video is NOT representative of all Aussies but she’s definitely not alone in her horrible, racist beliefs. But her vitriol isn’t the only bad thing in this video. That bus has a lot of other people on it and the only reactions she gets involve some other bogan laughing along with her, someone filming it and the bus driver asking her to stop. That poor kid had to endure that abuse alone, and I was ashamed. Silence implies consent, so as far as she knows, she didn’t actually do anything wrong. Anyway, see for yourself. WARNING: FOUL LANGUAGE.
I have been described as a militant feminist a couple of times, including by my boyfriend (though in the nicest possible way, of course). If shouting at people for making g0-back-to-the-kitchen jokes or getting rage when I hear about a new case of victim-blaming in the case of male-on-female rape makes me a militant feminist, then I am fine with this! I don’t think women get angry enough about these sorts of topics and in many cases, are worse than men at perpetuating a lot of these myths about where a woman’s place is.
One issue that I feel strongly about is women taking her husbands surname after marriage. It just feels so wrong to me, I can’t think of how it benefits the woman at all and it’s just another outdated remnant of a time where women lost their identity as soon as they were married. It bothers me so much when I hear of friends who take on their husbands name, though none of my close friends have married yet so I’ve never discussed it with them or asked them why they decided to change their name. I find it old fashioned, unnecessary and totally sexist. But when I tell people this, they think I’m being ridiculous. It’s the done thing, it’d be so confusing not to have a shared family name, it’s no big deal etc. I’m also reminded that it’s a woman’s choice and isn’t that what feminism is about anyway? Letting women make their own choices?
I call BS on all of that. It’s a massive deal to go through the process of changing your surname. It’s not like you just wave your marriage certificate at a few utilities companies and be done with it, there’s expense involved and you have to go through a lot of legal rigmarole before contacting each company necessary to make the change. Then there’s the fact you now have a whole new name! You have to change your signature and make sure you remember to give your new name instead of your old one. And if it’s “not a big deal” then why don’t more men take on their wives names? I appreciate that a part of feminism is respecting a woman’s choice, but I’m of the opinion that most women don’t take their husbands names because they really want to , they just do it because it’s expected. Fuck that! If you have a terrible surname, I can absolutely understand you wanting to take your new husbands name to get rid of it (though if it’s so bad, I would have suggested changing it to something you actually want, not just taking on whatever boring surname your boyfriend-cum-husband happens to have). But when you marry a Smith or Cockburn, please don’t tell me you actually wanted his surname because gurl, I ain’t buyin’!
I just wish women were more open to the possibility of keeping their name, because I feel it’s a massive part of who you are, and to give it away just because it’s the “norm” seems silly to me. Why not explore other options? Why can’t your hubby take on your surname? Why not, if you can, merge both your surnames and both take it on? Sure you still have to go through all of the stress of changing your name, but at least you’re doing it together! I’m also not opposed to the idea of hyphenating names (I mostly enjoy how long and obnoxious they can be). There are other options and you, as a new wife, have every right to explore them and do what makes you happy. If taking on his surname is something you genuinely want, then good for you. But please do it because it’s what you want, not because you feel you have to, OK?
I understand I may be too much of a hardarse on this matter, but I feel really damn passionate about it. I have no intention of changing my surname after I get married (I mean, Westworth is a pretty neat and unusual name, I’d never want to lose it) and my kids will either take on my name or both parents names. I’ll be damned if I’m popping children out, only for their dad to get all the freaking credit! If my husband loves me, then he’ll understand. If he refuses, then I’ll kick his arse til he does or else not marry him!
What are your thoughts? If you’re married, did you take your partners name? What were your reasons for (not) doing so?
I tend to get on my feminist high-horse on a daily basis. There’s always something going on in the news about some poor woman being raped/murdered or simply highlighting the inequality between men and women. Depending on my mood I tend to post links to my facebook where I have a bit of a rant about the injustices of the world and maybe have a bit of a discussion about it with friends. Occasionally there is debate, sometimes heated but almost always respectful and well intention ed.
I made a point of mentioning that as it’s from the Daily Mail, it’s automatically kind of hard to believe or take seriously, but that I recommended it because of how it proves misogyny is still a big problem these days, even amongst the well-educated and wealthy, and that rape should never a joking matter. I feel these two facts are pretty obvious, and so I am always shocked and appalled when I get resistance to them from people. There was a massive fight about it, with one person being particularly vocal about how it was probably all a lie because of the site it was on and discounting it as female hysteria because there were no back up sources online (wut?). As one friend put it “Being critically aware is cool, but doubting off the bat has its roots in victim blaming and misogyny itself”.
It’s not just the media that’s sympathising with the rapists, the average joe on twitter has an opinion on it too as highlighted on Public Shaming (Warning: This tumblr will probably enrage you).
It is perplexing to me that even in the year 2013, people still don’t “get” what rape is. It’s as though rape is only genuine when it involves an innocent girl is raped by the creepy pervert hiding in the bushes. There is always a question of “what did the girl do to deserve the rape?” because it seems that unless you were dressed conservatively, are sober and you were walking in a safe area during daylight hours, it’s basically your fault that you got raped because you did something wrong (dressed “provocatively”, drank too much, walked in a bad area at night without a male escort etc) and you really should have know better. And unless a man forced himself on the violently, there’s always doubt about whether it’s really rape because maybe she lead him on, she just regretted having sex with him the next morning or the ever popular “well she didn’t say no”.
Just to be absolutely clear: RAPE IS RAPE.
We need to be beyond a time where we doubt a woman’s claim of rape before she even has a chance to explain what happened. Her being drunk or the fact she wore a short skirt should never, ever be justifications for her being sexually assaulted by anyone. There is no “lesson” being taught when a girl is raped. There is never something she has done to deserve rape as a punishment or lesson because no matter how repugnant she may be as a person, rape is never acceptable. It makes me furiously angry that everyone doesn’t know and accept this, but with everything that’s been happening in the world lately, it’s pretty darn clear that the general public either doesn’t realise or simple refuses to believe the truth. The fact a woman can be gang-raped to death and have people ask “Well why was she out after dark with a man who isn’t her husband?” or have a girl molested by a group of boys and have thousands of people the world over blaming her because she was drunk, only proves that there is a huge amount to do in terms of educating people on how victims of rape deserve to be treated. It’s not going to be easy and we’ll probably never get 100% there but I honestly think it’s possible.
I have so many opinions on this matter but I feel they can all be summed up with the following:
What people don’t understand is when we say “Teach men not to rape,” we’re not talking about telling them not to jump out of the bushes in a ski mask and grab the nearest female. We’re talking about the way we teach boys that masculinity is measured by power over others, and that they aren’t men unless they “get some.” We’re talking about teaching men (and women) that it’s not okay to laugh at jokes about rape and abuse. We’re talking about telling men that a lack of “No” doesn’t mean “Yes,” that if a woman is too drunk to consent they shouldn’t touch her, that dating someone – or even being married to someone – does not mean automatic consent. We’re talking about teaching boys to pay attention to the girl they’re with, and if she looks uncomfortable to stop and ask if she’s okay, because sometimes girls don’t know how to say stop in a situation like that. We’re talking about how women have the right to change their mind. Even if she’s been saying yes all night, if she says no, that’s it. It’s over. That’s what we mean when we say “Teach men not to rape.
Today a friend linked me to an article called Nerds: Stop Hating Women Please, asking for my opinion (with pleasure, Naomi!). It is based off a Facebook post by comic book artist Tony Harris who had a rant about women, particularly one’s who aren’t especially hot, who cosplay at comic book conventions. Basically he feels that most of these women aren’t real fans and are just dressing up because they’re attention seekers but are seeking the attention of nerdy guys who they wouldn’t give the time of day to when NOT at a convention.
As much as I hate to admit it, I do see his point. Problem is, he articulated it badly and is being a massive douchebag about it. What he should have said, and what I hope he actually meant, was that he hates posers at con’s and if you’re going to dress up as a character, make sure you’re doing it because you genuinely love the character/fandom and not because you think you’ll look cool/sexy/whatever in it. I think that if fair enough, because I feel that if you’re going to dress up as anything you should do it well and part of that is knowing what on earth you’re dressing up as.
Where he massively fucked up was aiming his vitriol at female cosplayers specifically, ad not only that, specifically the ones who are kinda-ok-looking but not totally hot. It’s as though he’s decided that only true girl-geeks are dorky, fat and ugly like the stereotypical geeky guy, while any girl who’s super duper hot isn’t trying to seek attention because she’s hot anyway, so like, whatever. WHAT THE HELL, DUDE? He actually seems bitter about being spurned by a girl for being a geek at some point in his life and now think all women are the same. And what about his awful opinion on his fellow guy-geeks? I’d be fuming if I was a male geek and I was tarred with the same brush as the worst examples of geeks.
I think Tony and any geeky guys out there who think like him need to understand a simple fact about women. Most of us do not dress the way we dress because we are seeking the attention of males. We wear what we were because we like it and/or it’s fashion. Sometimes fashion is revealing or shocking and therefore gets people’s attention. But attention-seeking is not the sole reason we dress in anything other than oversized hoodies and baggy jeans. Now, take into the equation what the typical female wears in comic books, film, video games etc and and ask yourselves this? What the hell else are we supposed to wear at conventions? Should we be making more modest versions of female super hero costumes in order to avoid being “attention seekers”? OH HALE NO!
Tony fucked up big time by focusing on women in his rant. Because this applies to men too. I see so many buff guys strutting around shirtless or in figure hugging lycra at conventions as their some super handsome comic book character, and I’m sure a number of them are only doing to to show off their hot-bod’s and not so much because they love the fandom. WHO CARES? Conventions are there for people to geek out over their favourite things, and dressing up is a huge part of the fun. If someone dresses up as a character and doesn’t know much about it, that’s their problem, not yours. It’s not your business if they look awful because they don’t have the perfect physique in their costume. Let them have their fun and go about and have yours.
I think that the people who deserve to be targeted at con’s are those who wear cheap, shitty costumes from Chinese websites that are ill-fitting and cheaply made. I don’t give a shit how much you love that character or their fandom, you look like a punce. I’m a firm believer (as I’ve mentioned before) that unless you’re doing to dress up properly, don’t bother. Just go in your normal clothes and take photos of the people who actually bothered to make an effort, regardless of how big a geek you think they are.
Please watch this video. I found this today while procrastinating and trawling through crappy news sites and it struck a cord with me. Bullies are jerks and I am sick of hearing about kids killing themselves after being relentlessly bullied. It should never happen and it boggles my mind that it keeps happening and is being fought against.
I was never really bullied in school. I’ve been super tall my whole life after some early growth spurts and so I never looked like a potential victim. Oh sure, tall kids get bullied too, but when you’re also a big ol’ loudmouth as I tend to be, bullies don’t really bother you much. They tried a few times though, but I’d usually laugh in their faces. I actually spent a lot of time defending kids against bullies in high school. Any time I saw someone teasing or hurting another kid in a bullying kind of way, I’d be all up in the bullies face yelling insults back and a few times, I lashed out physically (only minor things like a few face slaps and pinning them against a wall while I told them a thing or two). In most cases the bully stopped and as far as I knew stopped bullying that kid, at least while I was around. I did suffer some workplace bullying which was awful but I learne d alot from that, and will never let that happen to me again.
See, this is the thing with most bullies, be they at school or at work or online, people turn a blind eye to it. Which is RIDICULOUS! Standing up to a bully isn’t the same as standing up to a man holding a knife or a gun. You don’t even have to stand up to them yourself, if you think they might turn their attention to you (which should only be a problem if the bully is a violent one since, ya know, words can’t hurt you) because you can go report them to someone with authority and get them to sort it out. And if they won’t, go to someone else. There’s never an excuse to be a silent witness to bullying and by turning the other cheek, you’re almost as bad as the bully themselves.
Now that we have the internet, bullying can be sneakier and done with more secrecy because if the attacks are all sent via email or private message, there aren’t any witnesses. I’ve received some nasty online bullying before but mostly from complete strangers who take offense to something I’ve posted online and after initially getting a bit riled up, I am able to laugh about it and hit delete. But many people can’t do that and take those nasty words to heart and suffer in silence. It’s unfortunate that they feel they can’t tell friends or family about it and actually believe any of those vicious comments are true.
I don’t have any awesome advice on how to deal with bullying because I was very rarely subject to it. All I can say is, heed the advice given by Jennifer Livingston because it’s so, so good. No one deserves to be bullied ever, not as a kid and not as an adult, no matter what their situation in life. Bullies are cowards and we need to help each other out to stop them from destroying any more lives.
Unless you’re not from Australia, you may not know about Jill Meagher. In the very early hours of Saturday 22nd September, she started the extremely short walk home in Brunswick, one she’d probably walked alone many times before. But she never made it home and her husband reported her missing right away. Within a day or two the whole of the country was aware of her disappearance. On the morning of Friday 28th I woke to the news that her body had been discovered, raped and murdered 50km north of Melbourne and a man had been arrested in relation to her death.
I honestly haven’t stopped thinking about it since my boyfriend woke me up to tell me her body had been discovered. I was feeling ratshit from going to a gig the night before and the subsequent agony that my back was going through as a result, but I was wide awake as soon as I heard. I knew deep down that there wouldn’t be a happy ending when she was missing for more than three days and they found her belongings in an alley. But that doesn’t stop you from feeling sad when you find out what happened to her.
Without making this a big ol’ feminist rant, I just want to say how close to home this is for almost every female I know. We’re always told to be careful, not to walk alone at night (especially not while drunk) and always be wary of strange men. But who would ever think they’d be abducted while walking the 500m from a bar to your home in a busy neighbourhood? It goes to show that no matter how careful and prepared for the worse you are, it means nothing when you’re in the wrong place at the wrong time. It was so sad to hear of people victim-shaming her for not calling her hubby to pick her up or catching a cab. It was 500 metres, of course it made sense to walk when she probably did it dozens of times before. I’ve made similar walks home while drunk before and while I had fleeting thoughts of worry that someone might try and hurt me, the fact it was a short distance in a busy area with lots of potential witnesses made the likeliness of my being hurt/grabbed seem impossible. I could have been so wrong just one of those times and never made it home. It’s so unfair that women have to be scared about being assaulted by simply walking by themselves at night, and then have people say “well you shouldn’t have done that” like we’re supposed to cover ourselves head to toe and have a man with us at every moment to avoid being attacked. It’s just bullshit.
I just hope Jill’s death won’t be in vain. I hope that it will affect people in such a way that we all start looking after one another a little better. Yes, killers and rapists will always be out there but maybe this will help make people more aware of the things happening around them and more willing to help out if someone seems to be in trouble. I also hope cab drivers stop refusing short trip fares, especially to the vulnerable and partners are more obliging to pick loved ones up instead of expecting them to make their own way home after a night out. If that’s what comes of of this terrible situation then at least Jill’s death wasn’t entirely pointless, especially if it ends up saving someone else’s life.
If you’re Australian, you’ve undoubtedly heard of the new show on Channel 10 called “The Shire”. If not, let me paint you a picture. There’s an area of southern Sydney called the Sutherland Shire which is nicknamed the Shire (clever, I know). For a historical reference, Cronulla Beach is located in the Shire, where the infamous race riots happened back in 2005. Basically, it is known for having lots of bogan’s, including the ever fancy variety, the CUB (cashed up bogan) . It’s probably a nice area as far as landscape goes because it’s got some nice beaches and stuff but everything I know about the Shire revolves around the bogan’s and their race riots.
So, Channel 10 decided to make a show called The Shire which follows the lives of a few residents in the ever-special “dramality” format. In other words, it’s meant to be reality TV but they try to class it up by making it look a bit like a soap opera with nicer lighting and better shot framing etc. Also, you bet your arse it’s at least partially scripted. Think of classic American TV dramality shows like “Laguna Beach” or its spin off “The Hills”.
If you’ve seen either ”Laguna Beach” or “The Hills” then you know what a load of clap trap it is. But it’s pretty addictive even though you know the typical episode is just 10 minutes of Lauren Conrad moaning about something, Heidi and Spencer being the worlds worst couple and then a whole bunch of shots of Hollywood Hills as filler. But it kind of works for whatever inexplicable reason. Australians cannot recreate it, and so before it even debuted, everyone knew The Shire would fail. I mean really, who wants to see a bunch of 20-something CUBs having made up fights with each other, acting like they have ALL THE FUN and do ALL THE SHOPPING with dickhead bogan accents and filler shots of the beach? BORING.
Naturally I was stubborn and refused to watch it and instead opted to take my dogs for a walk. I saw enough in the constant stream of ad’s they showed to have the whole first episode, if not the whole series, summed up nicely. But I’ve done a fair bit of reading up on it today and am pretty confident I was 100% spot on. Apparently people are taking back their claims that Lara Bingle’s atrocious reality show is the worst Australian show ever made, and giving that title to The Shire instead. Yep, it seems like it’s just that bad.
I will say this though, it’s NOT our equivalent of “Jersey Shore”. I mean come on, at least they have Snooki! Seriously, at least Jersey Shore is in-you-face trashy and is like a car-crash – you can’t help but watch in shocked wonderment. The Shire is just embarrassing.
Anyway, for the LOLs here are a few of the articles I’ve had a laugh at about just how badly received the show was:
Goodness! I haven’t done a I <3 Links post in AGES! Well, let me remedy this immediately!
Awesome People Hanging out Together
Pretty self explanatory. Mostly celebrities and other well-known, cool people. There are some really random combinations of people which fills me with lots of joy :)
Do you need some no-nonsense advice from someone who doesn’t beat around the bush? Or do you just like to read advice such as this, dished out to strangers? Then this tumblr is for you. I love how direct she is, and have already taken some of the advice for myself.
Do you enjoy letterheads? I know I do, and as someone who has an actual, proper pen pal that I write to every month, I am really into letterheads and other fancy, REAL stationary right now. There are some super cool ones here that I’d love to replicate!
Grandpa Simpson Quotes
I don’t think there’s a soul alive who doesn’t love Grandpa Simpson. His quotes are always awesome (well, maybe not as great in the last 10 years but that’s because the new writers are generally pretty awful these days).
“Mr. Peterson, you can take this job and…fill it! And one more thing…I never once washed my hands. That’s your policy, not mine.”
Lick My Cupcakes
I’ve loved this blog by Em for years but for some reason I stopped reading it for ages (my fault for not adding it to my “Blogs to check daily” folder, I s’pose). Check it out as she’s super cute and blogs very lovely things.
The Zombie Apocalypse is Upon Us
Did you hear? Zombies have turned up in the USA and well, started eating people’s faces (warning, link is GRAPHIC and NSFW). I don’t want to be called a fear mongerer but my plans to learn archery seem highly appropriate right about now, as does storing canned good, medical supplies and buying a fortress in the middle of a vast field with plenty of fresh water and good views for zombie shootin’.
On Tuesday night I read an article by Samantha Brick called “Why women hate me for being beautiful”. I actually found it after seeing VICE magazine has written a parody of it and I had to see what the fuss was about. I was curious based on the title, and thought it might prove insightful because I do think women can be rude and awful to other women out of jealousy. But then I started reading the article and couldn’t work out whether to laugh or fly into a furious rage. It took me about three attempts to finish the article because I’d get so bad tempered with it and had to look away.
I’m not even going to go into the fact she’s not nearly as beautiful as she proclaims to be. Beauty can be perceived in many differemt ways and I’m sure a lot of men, and probably women, find her extremely attractive (though I will admit I did wonder if it was all a joke after reading the first paragraph and seeing the first photo because neither really matched each other). Even if she had have been the most gorgeous women on Earth, if she looked like a beautiful combination of Megan Fox, Charlize Theron and Catherine Zeta Jones (all of whom i consider good examples of classic beauty), her article was the most self-deluded and condescending piece of rubbish I’ve ever wasted my time on.
Men apparently buy her things and fawn all over her for her “lovely smile”. Ok well you can’t hate her for that. I assume she’s just not very photogenic and actually does have a radiant smile, so her getting free things from admiring men isn’t so big a deal. But then she goes on to explain that women everywhere hate her for her stunning good looks, that she’s lost jobs over it, lost friends and made enemies, all because other women are so overwhelmed by jealousy and can’t bare the thought of their husbands meeting her because clearly she’ll knock them off their feet and they will leave them for her. Right.
She also wrote a follow up article detailing how terrible the 24 hours were since that article went live and how we’ve all basically proved her point that we’re all a bunch of jealous skanks who hate her for being too attractive. WTF? She does make a few good points, I’ll reluctantly admit. Women do act like jealous cows and hate on attractive women for no apparent reason. It’s a superficial thing though and almost always short-lived. I don’t know any woman who hates another female solely because she’s extremely attractive. Sure we might mutter “bloody bitch” when we see how amazing their figure is, how lovely their hair looks or how flawless their complexion is, but it’s a joke and it’s our weird way of paying a compliment to a woman who we perceive as very attractive.
Let’s face facts, love. Women do not hate you because you’re beautiful. They hate you for your abysmal personality. Women ARE daunted by beauty, but they’re able to get over it very quickly. I’ve met a lot of beautiful women and have noticed how men react to them within the first few minutes of meeting them and instantly felt threatened. But in most cases they prove themselves to be nice, down-to-earth and generally lovely women and that first pang of jealousy that deep down made me feel like there was some sort of good-looks contest going on, disappeared. If any of them were stuck-up or aloof with me, I’d get me back up and instantly dislike them, and it would take a little bit of coercion before I could change my opinion. Basically, if you’re up yourself or act better than me, I will not like you on first contact. You don’t even have to be beautiful, women tend to base their opinions of personalities and we’re actually more likely to feel threatened by an extremely self-confident woman than a beautiful one.
Which is Samantha’s problem, I guess. She has way too much self-confidence and absolutely no comprehension of what modesty is. i’m not saying women can’t acknowledge their good looks, but everyone prefers someone who’s humble in the good fortune than one who makes a big ol’ fuss about it. I would suggest it’s not her “good looks” that women dislike about her, it’s the fact she has a huge ego and projects her feelings that all women hate her for being attractive onto other women, and that’s what they sense and instantly dislike. Or maybe she has really terrible self-confidence and over compensates for it by being an obnoxious tart. After all, her previous articles about how her (revolting) husband will divorce her if she gets fat, how she blew all her money on an addiction to using psychics or how she’s flirted her way to the top of her profession, seem to convey someone who is insecure as hell. but maybe that’s just me, and I’m misinterpreting her shoddy journalism.
Like the old saying says, beauty is skin deep. There is absolutely no point primping and preening on the outside if you’re a horrible beast of a person on the inside. People, women especially, can see through your makeup and nice hairdo and see what kind of person you are and use that to decide if you’re truly beautiful. While we women can be a bitchy lot, for the most part we do not hate a person simply because of how they look, and use a lot of other factor to come to that conclusion. Sorry sam, but you’re an ugly moll on the inside and out and women don’t like you because you’re not worth liking. Soz!
A couple of amusing parodies that I’ve read (feel free to share any that you’ve found):