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	<title>Comments on: Growing up is OPTIONAL!</title>
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		<title>By: Empty Purse</title>
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		<dc:creator>Empty Purse</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Jun 2009 11:03:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I totally agree, as does everyone else by the sounds of it. I read it a couple of weeks ago and just cringed at how boring the writer thinks you have to be. Why age 25 anyway? Bit of a random age to choose. It was just a lame post all in all!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I totally agree, as does everyone else by the sounds of it. I read it a couple of weeks ago and just cringed at how boring the writer thinks you have to be. Why age 25 anyway? Bit of a random age to choose. It was just a lame post all in all!</p>
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		<title>By: Cathy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Cathy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Jun 2009 14:42:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think that article was made for retards and christians</description>
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		<title>By: Ben</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 31 May 2009 08:18:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jesus, if I took this seriously I&#039;d be truly fucked.</description>
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		<title>By: Greg Lexiphanic</title>
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		<dc:creator>Greg Lexiphanic</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 29 May 2009 02:27:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I agree that the article&#039;s author is very presumptuous in their tone about what you should or should not have by the age of 25 (i.e. job, well-kept home, etc).

However, I think maybe a lot of people are misinterpreting what some of the suggestions in the article actually mean. Really, that&#039;s the fault of the author for not being clear in meaning.

For example, the one about not staying with friends ISN&#039;T saying you can&#039;t stay with friends - though it&#039;s easy to interpret it that way. It&#039;s saying that just because you&#039;ve booked a flight to Melbourne, don&#039;t automatically assume your friends will be cool to let you crash. As it says in the article: &#039;Mentioning that you plan a visit to another city may lead to an invitation to stay with a friend or family member, which you may of course accept; assuming that &quot;it&#039;s cool if you crash&quot; is not.&#039;
And the same goes for the one about friends helping you move and so on.

She doesn&#039;t say &quot;use a hankie&quot; but is suggesting that although having a roll of toilet paper on the coffee table to handle the current flu season might be acceptable to you, if you&#039;re having people over, the least you can do is put it away and provide apologies for a lack of tissues later. No one wants to see a roll of toilet paper outside a bathroom unless the reason is entirely obvious.

What the article is really saying is that by the time you&#039;re 25, you should understand that the world doesn&#039;t revolve around you. People have their own shit to deal with and, sometimes, it means they can&#039;t incorporate your needs, too. If they can&#039;t let you crash with them or can&#039;t help you move, it doesn&#039;t make them bad friends / scumbags. In the same way, you should be able to consider how your decisions affect others when you make them.

I&#039;m not actually disagreeing with any of your arguments. I AM apologising for the author&#039;s ability to create a degree of misunderstanding that they did not intend (which can be seen in her responses to similar rants in the article&#039;s comments section).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I agree that the article&#8217;s author is very presumptuous in their tone about what you should or should not have by the age of 25 (i.e. job, well-kept home, etc).</p>
<p>However, I think maybe a lot of people are misinterpreting what some of the suggestions in the article actually mean. Really, that&#8217;s the fault of the author for not being clear in meaning.</p>
<p>For example, the one about not staying with friends ISN&#8217;T saying you can&#8217;t stay with friends &#8211; though it&#8217;s easy to interpret it that way. It&#8217;s saying that just because you&#8217;ve booked a flight to Melbourne, don&#8217;t automatically assume your friends will be cool to let you crash. As it says in the article: &#8216;Mentioning that you plan a visit to another city may lead to an invitation to stay with a friend or family member, which you may of course accept; assuming that &#8220;it&#8217;s cool if you crash&#8221; is not.&#8217;<br />
And the same goes for the one about friends helping you move and so on.</p>
<p>She doesn&#8217;t say &#8220;use a hankie&#8221; but is suggesting that although having a roll of toilet paper on the coffee table to handle the current flu season might be acceptable to you, if you&#8217;re having people over, the least you can do is put it away and provide apologies for a lack of tissues later. No one wants to see a roll of toilet paper outside a bathroom unless the reason is entirely obvious.</p>
<p>What the article is really saying is that by the time you&#8217;re 25, you should understand that the world doesn&#8217;t revolve around you. People have their own shit to deal with and, sometimes, it means they can&#8217;t incorporate your needs, too. If they can&#8217;t let you crash with them or can&#8217;t help you move, it doesn&#8217;t make them bad friends / scumbags. In the same way, you should be able to consider how your decisions affect others when you make them.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not actually disagreeing with any of your arguments. I AM apologising for the author&#8217;s ability to create a degree of misunderstanding that they did not intend (which can be seen in her responses to similar rants in the article&#8217;s comments section).</p>
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