A Beery Visit to Wellington

August 25, 2015
Fashion and makeup, My Life, Parties and Fun, Travel

Last week Ben and I went to Wellington, New Zealand with a bunch of beer-industry mates for a short trip away and to visit a huge craft beer festival called Beervana. Ben has been to it twice before but this was my first time, in fact it was my first proper visit to Wellington as we didn’t stay there when my family traveled around New Zealand back in 1999.

When we left Brisbane is was pretty much t-shirt weather but Wellington was super chilly. After taking the above photo I popped on a 2nd pair of stockings, changed into a bigger coat and grabbed my scarf because whooooaaa!  I was dramatically unprepared for just how cold it was going to be, though I was assured it was a brief cold snap. We stayed in an excellent unit thanks to AirBnB which was lovely and central. Our first evening was pretty easy, we went to ParrotDog, a local brewery for a few drinks before eating ourselves silly at Sweet Mother’s Kitchen. Mmm beignets!

 

The next morning Ben and I headed to Dr Morse INC for tattoos! Ben had booked us spots about six months before but I didn’t really think of what design I wanted until two weeks before. I finally decided it was time to make my love of Lumpy Space Princess a permanent thing and opted for a cute ice cream, design because ice cream is delicious! I was tattooed by Nursey who was absolutely lovely and came up with such an excellent design that looks better than I possibly imagined! I highly recommend her and the studio, though I’m sad to say they probably won’t be in the submarine that you access via a tardis by then! I know that sounds bizarre but their studio was literally designed to look like a sub and the lifts were made to look like the tardis. AMAZING! But alas they’re changing locations soon :(

 

Friday was the first  day of Beervana and I was determined to wear my recently put together Simpsons-themed outfit! I bought the top from Peter Alexander which I matched with my Black Milk Beer leggings, a bow we made for Ruby Kawaii and a Duff beer charm Ben usually has on his keychain! I was definitely the brightest person there, everyone else wore dark colours so I stuck out like a sore thumb. It was incredible! Georgie took this brilliant photo as we were leaving which summed up the contrast pretty darn well!

Afterwards we went on a pub crawl back into the centre of town with what appeared to be most of the other people who’d been at Beervana, which turned a little bit messy within no time. I’d personally enjoyed a lot of delicious beers (and cider!) so I was in very high spirits too. We wound up back at ParrotDog where we terrorised the staff by having a very spirited dance off thanks to the DJ who was playing a decent selection of old RnB and hip hop tracks.

On Saturday we went back to Beervana for our second session, some of us were feeling a lot worse than others thanks to our actions the night before. Thankfully Ben and I went home pretty early on so we weren’t too dusty. We sampled some of the beers and ciders we missed the day before and revisited our favourites. It was so much busier than the day before and therefore a bit hectic but still fun. We ran late so I missed out on a talk about women in the beer industry which was a damn shame, especially because I later found out a few men kept mansplaining stuff which I would have loved to have argued against! We partied a lot less hard that evening, spending quite a lot of time in our unit watching Netflix which suited me just fine!

 
 

On Sunday we went to WETA Workshop! It was AWESOME! We couldn’t take any photos on the tour but I’m sure you get good idea of the cool stuff we saw from the trolls they had out the front! They showed us the process of making props and other special effects from concept to the end product, we saw lots of cool stuff from some of our favourite movies (ie. Lord of the Rings, District 9, Braindead etc) and learned heaps about the industry and even got some hints about some of their future projects. Afterwards we wandered to the Roxy Cinema to look at the Gandalf statue out front and because it’s the most beautiful old cinema that gets used for a lot of the stuff WETA works on too.

 

On our last day on Monday we managed to find the house from the cult classic Braindead to have a look at before having lunch and heading to the airport (where I finally saw the giant Gollum). Unfortunately our flight was super delayed because of bird strike so we had to wait around the airport for over five hours!!! It was pretty shit, especially since one lady took great personal offense to this and acted like a complete arsehole, even after police were called in to keep an eye on her! But we made it home safe and sound and without tearing our hair out so it was all good in the end!

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Farts and Feminism

August 6, 2015
Body and Soul, Feminism, Rants

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This might seem like a bit of a bizarre topic but I am actually quite passionate about it to be honestI personally think farting and other bodily functions are feminist issues and like to discuss them regularly. Is it because I think farts are absolutely hilarious? That’s probably part of it, but there’s a lot more to it then that!

I’ve read a few great articles about this topic (there’s even been scientific research), which confirmed my suspicions that the way men can get away with public displays of bodily function vs how women are shamed out of it are really damn sexist. How many times have you heard a man say he’s never heard his girlfriend/wife fart? Or that women don’t fart at all? I’ve heard it a lot and I find it so absurd that some (many?) men actually think this? That we literally do not or cannot fart, or that at the very least we hide it because it’s gross and inappropriate when the gas is come out of a woman’s arsehole. Get a grip dudes!

I feel the same about peeing. Men love pissing in public. Need to wee, not gonna wait til I find an actual toilet in five minutes time, just going to piss behind this bin! But god forbid women ever do so in public. At least when we do we’ll find a space that’s away from the public eye. But even so, it’s somehow perceived as gross and tacky while you’ll see dozen of blokes pissing on shop walls when out on a Saturday night. Could they have gone in the bar or nightclub they were just in? Of course! But nope, might as well piss wherever because we can, I’m a guy, wooo! I hate it! I have a really bad bladder so I find myself worrying about where I can pee a lot. I have almost wet myself on the hunt for a toilet which is about the time where I say “fuck it, I need to wee right now or else have pissypants”. But how many guys wait til that absolute bursting point before the do a public wee? Probably not many! Surely a random pee patch on the pavement is pretty gross regardless of the person who did it? Of course it is.

Why is this? Why are men allowed to fart, burp, piss and cough up phlegm without much more then a dirty look while women are too terrified to do any of these, even in the privacy of her own home? It’s because women aren’t allowed to be too “human”. If we show too much “real” stuff like men do then we become less desirable and therefore less fuckable. So much importance is placed on being ladylike that we’re actually denied the right to let our bodies do what they need to do naturally. I mean, most women hate pooping in public toilets because we’re ashamed of the noises we make! That is so bizarre and unfair!

Personally I think well-timed farts and burps are one of the greatest comedic devices ever. I am thankful I grew up in a house where we could fart and burp, talk about poop and wee and all that stuff without being shamed because “eww women don’t do that”. A lot of families aren’t like this, they won’t discuss any of it, which is actually really fucking bad and can cause you harm! I do understand that some people just don’t like any of it, they find it gross whoever it comes from. That’s OK! Different strokes for different folks! But when a man roars with laughter at his own farts but is repulsed when a woman does the same, that is some sexist bullshit.

LADIES: Embrace your farts! Burp when you need to! Discuss your bowel and bladder movements with your friends! Use your bodily functions to your advantage and overthrow the patriarchy! There is no reason why men can make every gross sound or smell available to them without concern and women are expected to act like they’re robots who don’t expel anything, ever. Maybe you don’t think this is worth worrying about, that feminism has bigger things to worry about. But c’mon, if women are living their whole lives without ever farting in front of their partner for fear of disgusting them, if women are making themselves sick by being too ashamed to tell anyone about their issues with their own bodily functions, that’s a bloody huge issue that absolutely needs to be addressed. While we worry about every other shitty (heh) thing that affects women but not men because the patriarchy fucking sucks. Because yeah, we can care about many things at once and in my case, being able to fart is one of them!

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What I Wore: Greazefest 2015

August 4, 2015
Fashion and makeup, Festivals and Gigs, My Life, What I Wore

Greazefest was on this weekend and it was the first one we’ve not had a stall at for two years. It was pretty great to just go for a browse and not have to worry about setting up and packing down the stall, being bored and/or tired for two full days, dealing with customers and so on. The only bad thing was that I spent way too much oney and made nothing in return! Ha!

I went with my best friend Sarah where we met with our long time friend Dallas and my mum to catch up and chat and have a look at the many classic cars and market stalls. Unfortunately we didn’t think of taking photos til the end when Dallas had already left and the sun was blinding so a most of my photos were washed out. But I snapped a few of my outfit which I decided to call “Kawaiibilly” (as a play on rockabilly). I wore a vintage dress my mum gave me something like 12 years ago, in fact I wore it to my 21st dinner! Combined with a bunch of super cute accessories and face bling (my new favourite thing) I felt pretty darn cute that day ^_^

 

Dress: Vintage swing dress from the 50s, gifted to me by my mum many years ago
Shoes: Converse flatform low tops
Socks: Clear socks with pink hearts and purple seams from WEGO in Japan
Headband: Pompom headband made by my sister from Ruby Kawaii
Necklace and earrings: Bought on the day from UrsaLady

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The First Harajuku Fashion Walk International Day

July 29, 2015
Fashion and makeup, Japan, Nerds and Geeks, Parties and Fun, Wonderful Weekend


Photo by ALT TeeVee
On the weekend of July 25th and 26th it was the first Harajuku Fashion Walk International Day. Usually the Harajuku Fashion Walk just happens in the famous, wonderful suburb of Tokyo but the people who organise it decided it was something the world should get in on and so they announced that it would be an international day from now on! My friend Melinda asked if I’d like to help her organise something about two weeks before the actual date and naturally I sad YES!

Because we’re both busy women and time wasn’t exactly on our side, we didn’t do a whole lot to organise the event beyond deciding the time, creating the Facebook page and setting up an event. But even so, we were stoked at how decent a turn out we had! It was absolutely wonderful seeing so many people dressed in their finest Japanese-street-style fashion, including fairy kei, decora, lolita, visual kei and much more (if you’re curious about the types of Japanese fashion styles, this post has an awesome rundown of many of them). I often lament that almost no one in Brisbane gets kawaii fashion, so it was bloody awesome to see that there actually are a bunch who do, and there’s probably heaps more out there who didn’t make it to the walk. We can’t wait to plan next years event already!

It was also great to see people’s reactions to us and the walk. Many people approached us for photos and asked what we were up to. I tended to just say we weren’t dressed up for anything, that’s just how we like to dress, as I didn’t want them thinking it was just a bunch of people cosplaying (for some of us, kawaii is a way of life, not a costume!). Speaking of cosplay, there was very little of it which was an enormous relief to me as I feared it might be over run by cosplayers who further reinforced the idea that dressing differently = costume.

 
The starting point was King George Square where everyone met up and took lots of photos (there were so many photographers there specifically for the event which was super cool) before we walked through the Queen Street Mall and over Victoria Bridge and into Southbank where we took lots more photos and had lunch at Harajuku Gyoza. Someone from the ABC offices saw us and grabbed some photos of us as we passed by which was awesome!

 
My outfit was kind of a mic between fairy kei and decora. It was very exciting to be able to come up with a wonderfully OTT outfit with stuff I already owned! I loved being able to represent some of my crafty friends with my various accessories, such as Miss-a-Ree Guts Creations, Creep Heart and Winnifreds Daughter. Oh and my own brand Ruby Kawaii, of course! Unfortunately my phone was being a bit of a jerk and blurred for most of my close-up outfit photos :(

 
It was an awesome day all round and I’m glad we were able to quickly organise something. It was lovely seeing all of the excellent photos people took, not to mention this fantastic video shot by one of the participants:

There are lots of other photos floating around if you’re interested! The rest of my photos can be found here, otherwise check our Facebook page and the event for plenty more!

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Why should I lose weight for my wedding anyway?

July 24, 2015
Body and Soul, Feminism, Wedding

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In case you missed it, Ben and I are getting married on Halloween this year. As far as weddings go, we didn’t leave ourselves much time to get organising, particularly since we skipped off to Japan for almost a month shortly after deciding we wanted a Halloween wedding! I’m better at planning stuff last-minute anyway, or so I like to keep telling myself.

Weddings, even unconventional ones like ours, are a big deal to plan. Honestly if we weren’t having a themed wedding with a very specific idea in mind, I’d be more than happy to just have a chilled out backyard wedding with minimal cost or planning needed! But obviously, because I am who I am, it’s gonna be a bit of an extravagant affair. We’ve only got just over three months til the big day and soooo much left to do, OMG the stress! But I reckon we’ll get it all sorted and it’ll be the best party ever.

There are a couple of things bugging me pretty badly though, one in particular I have been internalising but then read this awesome article by Lindy West about how perfect her wedding was despite being fat. It was a wonderful read and made me really think about my desire to shed some weight before my wedding. I am determined to tone up my upper body as I noticed some fatty bit when I tried my dress on. But why? Why am I so determined to change a part of my body that’s going to be incredibly difficult to target (seriously, how do you even target your fatty armpit/side boob area? Push ups?)  just so I can look back at my wedding photos years down the track and think “ahhh not having arm fat that day made the whole experience that little extra bit special”. I mean, I’m wearing a dress that has so much damn tulle that you could kick my shin and it’d take five minutes for you to connect with me, so losing weight on my lower half would be kind of pointless if I’m specifically trying to lose weight for the wedding.  So I’m literally worrying myself over a fine layer of fat on my back and around/on my arms which most people have unless they’re body builders or dramatically underweight.

I’m trying to make my wedding as pro-feminist as possible but I can’t help but still worry about the trivial, patriarchal bullshit that women are told they’re supposed to worry about. Ben couldn’t give a shit if I lost/gained some weight before we get married and yet I am worried about being a fat wife, of guests thinking “geez she could have at last toned up a bit” or seeing the photos and only being able to see my chubby arms and not how wonderful a day it was. What a goddamn waste! I’m ever so slowly getting to a point where my weight isn’t the source of most of my misery, but I still panic at the thought of not looking slim and”perfect” on my wedding day. I never even believed in weddings until recently!

Weddings are such silly, sexist, heteronormative things. There are so many silly, expensive things women are convinced they have to do to look “perfect” while the man just chucks a suit on, shaves and turns up on time. I am very excited about turning up and blowing everyone’s minds with my awesome dress, but I mostly just want to have an awesome time with my friends and family. Who actually gives a shit if I don’t lose 15kg anyway? Not anyone who’ll be attending my wedding, that’s for damn sure!

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Kawaii Klaws: An Update

July 16, 2015
Kawaii Klaws, My Life, Nails

Hi guys, I have been very quiet on here about my foray into nails, which I wanted to remedy immediately! I’m still doing nails as much as possible and it’s still something I’m hella passionate about. I have not yet made an attempt to do it full time though that still is the ultimate goal. But I will continue in more depth after I share a few recent, fun designs I’ve done:

  
  
I’m still doing nails part time while maintaining a part time office job to help pay the bills. I think about starting my own nail salon constantly but I don’t feel like I’m ready to make the leap yet. I enjoy having a regular income that pays all of the bills and lets me buy fun things and go overseas each year, though I know I will have to take the plunge and start doing nails full time at some stage. I guess I’m still nervous because although I’ve been at it for a year, I know I have so much room for improvement and have a niggling fear of failure if I make the commitment too soon.

Apart from doing nails from home, I have been doing pop up events at cafes and bars and for Hen’s parties and I will soon be spending one Saturday a month at a local hair salon doing the nails of people while they have their hair done. It’s really fun! I absolutely love nail art and am so happy that I turned out to be pretty darn good at it and enjoy it so much. It’s mostly the acrylics side of things that’s the most daunting but I know that I will only get better the more I do.

  
  
If you’d like to see more of my nail art, check out my flickr album where I’ve uploaded the majority of my work! If you’re in Brisbane and would like me to do your nails, please check out my facebook page :D

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What I Wore: Bright and cartoony for Finders Keepers

July 8, 2015
Fashion and makeup, My Life, What I Wore

On Saturday I went with my friend Melissa to check out the Finders Keepers markets at the Old Museum. I’ve been going to these markets for years, mostly to support friends who have stalls there as a lot of the stuff there isn’t to my liking (it’s a bit too beige, quaint and “whimsy” for me). But it’s a good excuse to go out and support locals who hand make their wares. I wanted to wear my Simpsons x Hello Kitty dress as I haven’t worn it much and it’s just so damn cute! I also wanted to combat the muted colours I knew I’d encounter at the markets and so I chose lots of brights accessories.

 

Dress: The Simpsons x Hello Kitty Village Dress from Japan LA
Stockings: Plus Sized Solid Color Tights in Sky Blue from We Love Colors
Hair bow: Made by my for Ruby Kawaii
Accessories: Earrings and Hell-no Kitty necklace from Miss-a-ree Guts, peace heart necklace from Fancy Pocket Harajuku, brooch by Winnfreds Daughter, bracelets from Japan
Shoes: Jelly sandals from Windsor Smith

 
(With Mel outside the Old Museum and with Ella Mobbs, one of my favourite Brisbane artists)

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Ruby Reviews June 2015

July 1, 2015
Movies, Nerds and Geeks

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Tomorrowland
OK so this movie came out a little while ago now, and I had every intention of dedicating an entire post to it, but I just never got around to it and now I have a couple of other films I’d also like to review. I really liked this film, but was dismayed when I saw how poorly it was doing. I’m always hearing people complain about how films are rarely original these days, they’re all reboots or sequels or live-action adaptions of animated movies or whatever which is getting pretty boring. And yet this very original film comes out and no one bothers to see it. C’mon guys! I guess it’s because people assumed it was some sort of lazy Disney-park adaption when the only thing it shared with the Disney park is the name and the general “retro futuristic city” theme. Disney did a great job of creating an amazing new world (that may not quite be as it seems) with two of the three leading actors being young, smart women. They even did a decent enough job with diversity! My only fault with it that it was a tiny bit too family-friendly for my liking which was a little bit cheesy, but otherwise it was really fun! I thoroughly recommend you see it by legitimate means (ie. not illegally downloading it) so that Disney continues to make female-lead, diverse and original films like Tomorrowland!

JurassicWorld

Jurassic World
OK so this was another film I was going to dedicate an entire post to. I actually typed it up but since it was just a big rant about all of the bits that pissed me off, I decided not to share it with the world. So this is my condensed rant instead. Look, it was fun. I saw it twice and I’ll probably buy it on bluray. But it was pretty darn disappointing. I LOVE Jurassic Park, I watch it a lot and even watched it twice in one day after seeing this new one (because it’s that damn good), so I knew I was probably going to be a bit disappointed, but I had no idea just how much or why. First of all, the story line? A dinosaur theme park gets built despite the tragic occurrences in 1993, is successful but needs new, made-up dinosaurs with extra teeth to keep people excited. Also one guy can kind of get raptors to obey commands so another guy wants to send them to war to eat our enemies. WHO WROTE THAT? Did they just quiz some 8 year olds on what they should do and then mash the idea together without even bothering to link it all together?! Also, we need to discuss who the fuck designed the park. Who lets teenagers control their own giant glass balls among dinosaurs and not have a recall function if something happens? Who thought it’d be OK to have a giant underwater dinosaur enclosure right near the boardwalk where guests wander around? WHO ENTERS A DINOSAUR ENCLOSURE WITHOUT BEING ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN THE DINOSAUR ACTUALLY GOT OUT??? OK so this is quickly turning into my full-blown rant so I’ll stop (though I could go on for a while still). But really, how was this meant to follow up Jurassic Park anyway? How the hell do you make a character played by Chris Pratt so completely boring?  If you’re yet to see it just… don’t expect too much from it, ok?

InsideOut

Inside Out
I knew this film was going to be great when I realised it was directed by the guys who wrote/directed such treasure as UP, Monsters Inc, Wall-E etc. While I wouldn’t say it has become my favourite Pixar film, it was absolutely wonderful and a joy to watch. The basic premise is that our emotions are actually controlled by cute little creatures in our brain such as Joy, Sadness, Fear, Disgust and Anger. When we’re kids they’re very simple and distinct from one another but as we mature they start to change and merge together to form complex new ones. The whole film is a brilliant metaphor for depression which kids probably won’t fully comprehend but many adults who suffer depression would identify with, as the main character finds her “core memories” (which shape her personality) tinged with blue when Sadness feels compelled to touch them. As expected from the guys who wrote that bloody beginning sequence of UP, there’s a real tear jerker in this film (I had to try very hard not to ugly-cry) which will make even the hardest bastard shed a tear ;_;

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What I Wore: Rainbows, unicorns and a tiny dog

June 26, 2015
Fashion and makeup, Feminism, My Life, What I Wore, Wonderful Weekend

Last weekend I spent the day doing wedding stuff with my mum, which called for a fun, bright outfit of course! I recently got some stockings from We Love Colors which are the perfect compliment to my kawaii outfits! My theme was pretty loose, I just wanted to wear my unicorn dress and lots of bright colours really, and this was the result. As you can see, Midwich was pretty excited to be included, haha.

  

Dress: Attack of the Unicorn Reversible Skater Dress from Black Milk Clothing
Stockings: Plus Sized Nylon/Lycra Tights in Lilac from We Love Colors
Vest: Neon yellow vest from Target
Shoes: Converse Low Tops from DFO
Necklace: Feminist pride necklace by Miss-a-Ree Guts Creations, choker from City Beach
Hair Bow: Ruby Kawaii, of course!

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What I Wore: Black, white and splashes of bright pink

June 23, 2015
Fashion and makeup, My Life, Parties and Fun, What I Wore

To follow up my recent post about dressing more kawaii, here’s another outfit post from last weekend (gosh I’m slack as positing these withing a decent time frame). I was going to a friends housewarming party which was going to be a very casual affair so I opted for comfort to go with the cute. I gotta say, black and white with a splash of a bright coloyr is one of my most favourite fashion styles because it’s easy to do and pretty darn effective!

 

Dress: Free Spirit Skater dress from Black Milk Clothing
Cardigan: Unknown. I’ve had it for years and I wish I had one in every colour!
Stockings: Sporty Stripes Hosiery from Black Milk Clothing
Shoes: Pink flatform Converse low tops from Hype DC
Flower crown: Made by my sister
Necklace: Fancy Pocket in Harajuku
Bat ring: 6% Doki Doki in Harajuku (the other rings are ones I’ve had forever)

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