Nail Art at the Low Road sans outfit

October 7, 2015
Kawaii Klaws, Nails, Wonderful Weekend

On Saturday I had another pop up nail art day at the Low Road which was lots of fun as per usual. I have some regulars now, how cool is that? Sadly I don’t think I’ll be back at the Low Roat at the beginning of November for two reasons, one being my wedding on Halloween and also because I will be busy sorting myself out before I start doing nails FULL TIME from November 7th! Yep, I’m finally taking the plunge! I will post more about this a bit later though, I promise!

Now, as it’s October I am doing my 31 Days of Halloween challenge. I slacked off and didn’t post about it here last year but I absolutely intend to this year so I won’t include what I wore there now as it will be showing up in my first Halloween Fashion post! So in lieu of outfit pics, here are the nails I did:


That last pic? Those hands belong to  5 year old girl! Who was the most patient and still little client I’ve possibly ever had. This is what I mean when I say to people I can do nail art on just about any nails! Unfortunately she was too excited to keep entirely still for the photo, hence the slight blurriness. I love my job!


What I Wore: Super Bright for Wedding Shopping

October 1, 2015
Fashion and makeup, My Life, Wedding, What I Wore

Last Saturday my mum and I spent the day shopping for wedding supplies! We ended up visiting Costco which is the worst on a Saturday for decorations/lollies, DFO for wedding shoes and Paddington to look for jewelry and other bits and pieces. As I love on the south-west of Brisbane and Costco and DFO are waaaay up north there was a lor of driving and hurrying around but it was really fun!

I was determined to wear my dolls head necklace that I got in Harajuku and still hadn’t worn properly! SoI came up with a very bright, loud and fun outfit to compliment it! The people of the northside pf Brisbane obviously don’t see to much kawaii fashion as some people were quite taken aback! But hearing little kids get excited and compliment my outfit made it all worthwhile :)


Skirt: Little Lovers Cheerleader skirt from Black Milk Clothing
Top/s: From Valley Girl/Supre
Stockings: Plus Sized Solid Color Tights in Sky Blue from We Love Colors
Headband: Made by my sister for Ruby Kawaii
Necklaces: Dolls head necklace and heart choker from Romantic Standard

While leaving Costco it started pouring with rain. Mum and I were far too impatient to I grabbed a box to protect my hair and ran to my car. Of course it stopped as soon as I was about to get in the car, so mum snapped this pic :D


A weekend at Oz Comic Con 2015

September 25, 2015
Fashion and makeup, Halloween, My Life, Nerds and Geeks, Parties and Fun, What I Wore, Wonderful Weekend

Last weekend we had a stall at Oz Comic Con for Ruby Kawaii. It was such poor timing, we had to give up three weekends of wedding prep to sew new bows after I went on a selling frenzy on facebook after a bit of a dud Supanova earlier in the year. But I’d technically booked the stall earlier in the year, before Ben and I had decided we should have a Halloween wedding, and as Oz Comic Con are really picky about who they let have Artist Alley stalls, I didn’t want to pull out. LE SIGH.  But as it turns out, it was a lot of fun! We weren’t particularly stressed this time round and got whatever we planned to make done without much fuss. We had a great spot and our sales were decent so I’m definitely glad we did it!

I didn’t have time to come up  special outfit or cosplay so I went black & white Mickey Mouse themed on the Saturday and then super mega kawaii Halloween themed on the Sunday with Erin. This was actually the first con that’s been within a reasonable time frame before Halloween so I was very keen to sell lots of spooky stuff, but alas Brisbane people still don’t get it and I still have a bunch of Halloween bows leftover. Not that I’m complaining, really!

One of the guests who was appearing was Richard Dean Anderson. As in MacGyver! Mum was so excited and kept spying on him when he was signing autographs until we convinced her to go and get one for herself, which she did and he gave her a hug and flirted with her! She was so, so stoked! Also, Jim Beaver from Supernatural approached mum and Erin as they were lining up to see Richard to have a chat! Neither of them realised who he was until afterwards so they just had a big ol’ chat about the weekend and whatnot. Hilarious!

There were lots of cool cosplays as per usual, I ran out and took a few photos of the ones that caught my eye:

Unfortunately this was probably our last con for Ruby Kawaii for the year as we just don’t think we’ll have the time or stamina to get ready in time for Supanova in late November because of my wedding and… other reasons which I will probably share here in the next couple of weeks! ;)


Femmo Bites: Fragile Masculinity

September 22, 2015
Cara Rage, disappointment tuesday, Feminism, femmo bites

Hi everyone! Today I am going to teach you about the meaning of the term “fragile masculinity”. It’s become quite a popular term lately, and I for one love it because it sums up so much sexist, unnecessarily gendered bullshit so succinctly.

But what does it mean? Well, basically the term is usually used when referencing products that have been labeled as “manly” or “for men” which really don’t need to be. Typically these products will have dark colours, bold text, larger sizing and imagery that supports that harmful notion that men must be hyper-masculine at all times. These products which can range from such ordinary items as tissues, body wash/loofahs, food and as above, lip balm are typically not gendered at all but there’s apparently money to be made from men who are so panicked by the thought of someone not thinking they’re a MANLY MAN at all time they need pretty much everything to look more masculine. I mean god forbid a man be caught applying classic Chapstick in public, I mean it’s mostly black but WOMEN use Chapstick and that’s embarrassing!

I find the idea of gendering food particularly hilarious. Like the time Donut King came up with the Bronut:


What genius thought this up? Eating one donut at a time (especially those awful, wussy pink ones) is too feminine so how about two lumps of lard covered in sugar together to really re-assert your masculinity!

The problem is two-fold though, because they’re unnecessarily gendering products towards women too, and have been for a long time. Things that absolutely do not need to be male or female because they’re just things all humans use. Some of the things I have seen in real life are ear plugs, pens, shavers, lollies, tools, soft drinks, disposable shavers etc. The extra shit thing is, often these hyper-feminised products come with a higher price tag. Often the product that’s geared towards men is the default while the one in pink packaging with flowy fonts, floral prints and “for her” scrawled across the packaging is the more expensive alternative. It stinks. It’s some sort of ridiculous marketing plot to make more money that society was sucked into far too easily. God knows I’ve bought products that have been labeled as “for her” when I could have gotten virtually the same product for less money. Sometimes the lure of pink is too strong, I guess.

So what the heck can we do about it? I guess the most simple thing to do is to stop buying unnecessarily gendered products. Not just for you, for everyone. Is there a child in your life, be it your own or a friends or family members? Try to buy something gender neutral for their next birthday and help break the cycle before that little boy thinks he needs matte-lip balm or the little girl thinks it’s OK for shaver companies to charge and extra dollar for a product whose only actual difference is that it’s pink instead of blue. Need new body wash? Go for brands that aren’t affiliated with shitty corporations like Unilever (they own brands such as Dove and Axe/Lynx which both target women/men in really crappy ways), I highly recommend Original Source as their packaging isn’t targeted at any gender and its natural, vegan and smells divine. If you need to buy moisturiser or shampoo for a male, get him whatever is on special, not this crap. Basically, just be aware of how products are marketed to you and opt for the gender-neutral options where possible. It’s sometimes hard for me because I fucking LOVE the colour pink, but when it comes to saving a bit of money and smashing the bullshit, patriarchal notion of what women and men are meant to like, I suck it up!

And if you see some ridiculous product being marketed to men that uses matte black packaging, bold text and obnoxious things like guns or naked women as set dressing, please make sure to mock it mercilessly and discourage everyone you know from ever, ever buying it. Because that shit is seriously whack. #fragilemasculinity


What I Wore: Nail Art at the Low Road

September 15, 2015
My Life, Nails, Ruby Kawaii, What I Wore, Wonderful Weekend

Thanks to my good friends at the Low Road, I am now doing monthly pop up nail art at their cafe in Windsor! Last Saturday was my 3rd stint and it was a fun day as usual. Although we don’t live particularly close by, we tend to patronise the cafe a lot so it’s super cool to also team up with them business-wise!


Dress: Gifted, I believe it was from Princess Polly (please disregard the pesto stains on the skirt!)
Leggings: Candy Hearts leggings from Black Milk Clothing
Shoes: Low top platform Converse
Accessories: All by me and mum for Ruby Kawaii

Here’s some of the nail art I did on the day:


My next pop up at the Low Road will be on Saturday 3rd October!


Femmo Bites: Why doesn’t anyone care about domestic violence?

September 10, 2015
Cara Rage, Feminism, In the News, My Advice

As someone who has been in an abusive relationship (it was verbally and emotionally abusive though I now realise it could have also become violent had I stayed) this hurts my heart so much. Leaving an abusive person is hard. They wear you down over time to make you feel inadequate and worthless and if they’re worried you might leave them, drop threats at what will happen if you do leave. In my case it was having deeply personal stuff revealed publicly and having no friends left after what he’d tell them all about me.

I can’t even imagine how much harder it would have been if there’d been threats of physical harm, or if we’d had kids together. I’m also lucky I had an excellent support network who got me out of there in a day, a mum who took me in without a single question or complaint and I had control of my money and belongings so I didn’t have to leave with nothing. Many women don’t have it like I did, they have no money and have to flee, with their children, with only minimal belongings. If they don’t have friends or family who can help them, they have to reply on crisis shelters which receive little support and are closing down all over Australia, so are probably over capacity already.

I don’t tend to talk about that part of my life because a) it fills me with burning, fiery rage b) life is great now and I don’t want to waste any more time on my ex and c) I’m fairly certain he still reads my blog and social media through dummy accounts and I don’t like giving him the satisfaction knowing I still think about him, even if it’s in a negative way. But I figure if someone reading this goes “hey, that’s why my partner does to me” and it gives them the courage to leave them or at least be more conscious of how they’re being treated, then I’m happy to put it out there.

Domestic violence should be one of the biggest issues in Australia right now, if not the whole world. But it’s left to being a sensationalised headline for a day or two and immediately forgotten about. That’s why the Destroy the Joint “Counting Dead Women” campaign is so important, because it’s easy to forget about these women when they’re only in the news briefly and no policy is made/changed to help other women from sharing similar fates.

So what do we do? I’m sorry to say, I don’t know. I don’t have a clue. Women keep shouting about how shit this is, but it seems to be falling on deaf ears. Or shitlord of a PM is Minister for Women and cares very little for women at all, so he’s as useless as tits on a bull. I see people all the time online claiming it’s not that bad or that it happens to men as much/more than women or suggesting women should just leave if their partner abuses them, like they’re fucking genius’ who somehow figured that out before anyone else did.

It fills me with such dread and sadness that I can’t think of anything to do. All I can suggest is to be vocal about it as much as you can. Call out bad behaviour that jokes about or approves of women being harmed in any capacity. Help any women in your life who might be in an abusive situation without judgement. Just please do not stay silent on this topic, whatever you do!


What I Wore: It’s Adventure Time!

September 3, 2015
Fashion and makeup, Nerds and Geeks, What I Wore

After a good year and a half of scanning ebay and crossing my fingers, I finally got the pair of Black Milk leggings I’d foolishly put off buying until they’d all sold out and had coveted ever since. They are the Adventure Time Bro Ball leggings and I was so happy that I not only found them in my size but also managed to win them! I missed out on a pair a couple of months ago and was so mad at myself for not paying attention to my ebay watch list. But it’s all good because they are finally mine!

For a day of hanging out with friends and family I thought a bright, fun Adventure Time outfit was in order. I have about 20 Adventure Time shirts but I wanted to utilise my denim pinafore that I often forget I own, so I wore a yellow crop underneath and added all of my favourite AT accessories to complete the theme.


Leggings: Adventure Time Bro Ball leggings from Black Milk Clothing
Dress: Black denim pinafore by Gail Sorronda for Target from Target
Top: Basic crop from Supre
Shoes: Black vans with pink cut out hearts, thrifted in New York
Accessories: Hair bow and Jake & Finn pins handmade by me and mum for Ruby Kawaii, necklace from a showbag!


A Beery Visit to Wellington

August 25, 2015
Fashion and makeup, My Life, Parties and Fun, Travel

Last week Ben and I went to Wellington, New Zealand with a bunch of beer-industry mates for a short trip away and to visit a huge craft beer festival called Beervana. Ben has been to it twice before but this was my first time, in fact it was my first proper visit to Wellington as we didn’t stay there when my family traveled around New Zealand back in 1999.

When we left Brisbane is was pretty much t-shirt weather but Wellington was super chilly. After taking the above photo I popped on a 2nd pair of stockings, changed into a bigger coat and grabbed my scarf because whooooaaa!  I was dramatically unprepared for just how cold it was going to be, though I was assured it was a brief cold snap. We stayed in an excellent unit thanks to AirBnB which was lovely and central. Our first evening was pretty easy, we went to ParrotDog, a local brewery for a few drinks before eating ourselves silly at Sweet Mother’s Kitchen. Mmm beignets!


The next morning Ben and I headed to Dr Morse INC for tattoos! Ben had booked us spots about six months before but I didn’t really think of what design I wanted until two weeks before. I finally decided it was time to make my love of Lumpy Space Princess a permanent thing and opted for a cute ice cream, design because ice cream is delicious! I was tattooed by Nursey who was absolutely lovely and came up with such an excellent design that looks better than I possibly imagined! I highly recommend her and the studio, though I’m sad to say they probably won’t be in the submarine that you access via a tardis by then! I know that sounds bizarre but their studio was literally designed to look like a sub and the lifts were made to look like the tardis. AMAZING! But alas they’re changing locations soon :(


Friday was the first  day of Beervana and I was determined to wear my recently put together Simpsons-themed outfit! I bought the top from Peter Alexander which I matched with my Black Milk Beer leggings, a bow we made for Ruby Kawaii and a Duff beer charm Ben usually has on his keychain! I was definitely the brightest person there, everyone else wore dark colours so I stuck out like a sore thumb. It was incredible! Georgie took this brilliant photo as we were leaving which summed up the contrast pretty darn well!

Afterwards we went on a pub crawl back into the centre of town with what appeared to be most of the other people who’d been at Beervana, which turned a little bit messy within no time. I’d personally enjoyed a lot of delicious beers (and cider!) so I was in very high spirits too. We wound up back at ParrotDog where we terrorised the staff by having a very spirited dance off thanks to the DJ who was playing a decent selection of old RnB and hip hop tracks.

On Saturday we went back to Beervana for our second session, some of us were feeling a lot worse than others thanks to our actions the night before. Thankfully Ben and I went home pretty early on so we weren’t too dusty. We sampled some of the beers and ciders we missed the day before and revisited our favourites. It was so much busier than the day before and therefore a bit hectic but still fun. We ran late so I missed out on a talk about women in the beer industry which was a damn shame, especially because I later found out a few men kept mansplaining stuff which I would have loved to have argued against! We partied a lot less hard that evening, spending quite a lot of time in our unit watching Netflix which suited me just fine!


On Sunday we went to WETA Workshop! It was AWESOME! We couldn’t take any photos on the tour but I’m sure you get good idea of the cool stuff we saw from the trolls they had out the front! They showed us the process of making props and other special effects from concept to the end product, we saw lots of cool stuff from some of our favourite movies (ie. Lord of the Rings, District 9, Braindead etc) and learned heaps about the industry and even got some hints about some of their future projects. Afterwards we wandered to the Roxy Cinema to look at the Gandalf statue out front and because it’s the most beautiful old cinema that gets used for a lot of the stuff WETA works on too.


On our last day on Monday we managed to find the house from the cult classic Braindead to have a look at before having lunch and heading to the airport (where I finally saw the giant Gollum). Unfortunately our flight was super delayed because of bird strike so we had to wait around the airport for over five hours!!! It was pretty shit, especially since one lady took great personal offense to this and acted like a complete arsehole, even after police were called in to keep an eye on her! But we made it home safe and sound and without tearing our hair out so it was all good in the end!


Farts and Feminism

August 6, 2015
Body and Soul, Feminism, Rants


This might seem like a bit of a bizarre topic but I am actually quite passionate about it to be honestI personally think farting and other bodily functions are feminist issues and like to discuss them regularly. Is it because I think farts are absolutely hilarious? That’s probably part of it, but there’s a lot more to it then that!

I’ve read a few great articles about this topic (there’s even been scientific research), which confirmed my suspicions that the way men can get away with public displays of bodily function vs how women are shamed out of it are really damn sexist. How many times have you heard a man say he’s never heard his girlfriend/wife fart? Or that women don’t fart at all? I’ve heard it a lot and I find it so absurd that some (many?) men actually think this? That we literally do not or cannot fart, or that at the very least we hide it because it’s gross and inappropriate when the gas is come out of a woman’s arsehole. Get a grip dudes!

I feel the same about peeing. Men love pissing in public. Need to wee, not gonna wait til I find an actual toilet in five minutes time, just going to piss behind this bin! But god forbid women ever do so in public. At least when we do we’ll find a space that’s away from the public eye. But even so, it’s somehow perceived as gross and tacky while you’ll see dozen of blokes pissing on shop walls when out on a Saturday night. Could they have gone in the bar or nightclub they were just in? Of course! But nope, might as well piss wherever because we can, I’m a guy, wooo! I hate it! I have a really bad bladder so I find myself worrying about where I can pee a lot. I have almost wet myself on the hunt for a toilet which is about the time where I say “fuck it, I need to wee right now or else have pissypants”. But how many guys wait til that absolute bursting point before the do a public wee? Probably not many! Surely a random pee patch on the pavement is pretty gross regardless of the person who did it? Of course it is.

Why is this? Why are men allowed to fart, burp, piss and cough up phlegm without much more then a dirty look while women are too terrified to do any of these, even in the privacy of her own home? It’s because women aren’t allowed to be too “human”. If we show too much “real” stuff like men do then we become less desirable and therefore less fuckable. So much importance is placed on being ladylike that we’re actually denied the right to let our bodies do what they need to do naturally. I mean, most women hate pooping in public toilets because we’re ashamed of the noises we make! That is so bizarre and unfair!

Personally I think well-timed farts and burps are one of the greatest comedic devices ever. I am thankful I grew up in a house where we could fart and burp, talk about poop and wee and all that stuff without being shamed because “eww women don’t do that”. A lot of families aren’t like this, they won’t discuss any of it, which is actually really fucking bad and can cause you harm! I do understand that some people just don’t like any of it, they find it gross whoever it comes from. That’s OK! Different strokes for different folks! But when a man roars with laughter at his own farts but is repulsed when a woman does the same, that is some sexist bullshit.

LADIES: Embrace your farts! Burp when you need to! Discuss your bowel and bladder movements with your friends! Use your bodily functions to your advantage and overthrow the patriarchy! There is no reason why men can make every gross sound or smell available to them without concern and women are expected to act like they’re robots who don’t expel anything, ever. Maybe you don’t think this is worth worrying about, that feminism has bigger things to worry about. But c’mon, if women are living their whole lives without ever farting in front of their partner for fear of disgusting them, if women are making themselves sick by being too ashamed to tell anyone about their issues with their own bodily functions, that’s a bloody huge issue that absolutely needs to be addressed. While we worry about every other shitty (heh) thing that affects women but not men because the patriarchy fucking sucks. Because yeah, we can care about many things at once and in my case, being able to fart is one of them!



What I Wore: Greazefest 2015

August 4, 2015
Fashion and makeup, Festivals and Gigs, My Life, What I Wore

Greazefest was on this weekend and it was the first one we’ve not had a stall at for two years. It was pretty great to just go for a browse and not have to worry about setting up and packing down the stall, being bored and/or tired for two full days, dealing with customers and so on. The only bad thing was that I spent way too much oney and made nothing in return! Ha!

I went with my best friend Sarah where we met with our long time friend Dallas and my mum to catch up and chat and have a look at the many classic cars and market stalls. Unfortunately we didn’t think of taking photos til the end when Dallas had already left and the sun was blinding so a most of my photos were washed out. But I snapped a few of my outfit which I decided to call “Kawaiibilly” (as a play on rockabilly). I wore a vintage dress my mum gave me something like 12 years ago, in fact I wore it to my 21st dinner! Combined with a bunch of super cute accessories and face bling (my new favourite thing) I felt pretty darn cute that day ^_^


Dress: Vintage swing dress from the 50s, gifted to me by my mum many years ago
Shoes: Converse flatform low tops
Socks: Clear socks with pink hearts and purple seams from WEGO in Japan
Headband: Pompom headband made by my sister from Ruby Kawaii
Necklace and earrings: Bought on the day from UrsaLady